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Suddenly I stop But I know it's too late I'm lost in a forest
About Me
- f o r r e s t
- m i s s i o n, k a n s a s
- I was once asked to use three words to describe my motto for life. I replied, "Go With the Flow." Is that a joke on me or them?
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I'm always so bad at writing people who move away or when I move away.
I am bad too about keeping in touch with people once they are no longer a day to day part of my life. I feel bad about some of the friends I lost contact with over the years. And there is way to much to "to catch up on" to send a simple email. Or a least that is what I think.
I've been considering sending old friends my blog address, since I seem to keep on top of that better. I always feel like a letter (or email) from me feels so forced, because I can't always think about what that one individual wants to hear about from me. Usually people are more interested in talking rather than listening anyway.
I thought about the blog thing too! That way they/you can slowly enter back into someones life.
Or you can look at as I do...although it is cold in nature. I preceive it as a cost of doing business. Life is like a business in many regards. You make investments, purchase upgrades, sell off material that is no longer needed. The same can be said about life and friends. You make investments into your friends' life and sometimes that investment no longer pays dividends. ie in this case...someone moving away. That not may come across exactlty the way I want it to...my brain goes way too fast for my hands to keep up.
This problem has always plagued me...losing touch with friends. Traveling the country as much as I have when racing full time...and meeting as many people as I have, it is amazing the small amoutn that I really have contacts with from 12 years ago. Then I begin to quesation myself..."was I not really a person they wanted to keep in touch with?" "Were THEY not the type of person I really wanted to stay in contact with?" You would think with blogs, text messaging, instant messaging it would be easier to KIT with our past friends...but I think it also represents the type of generation we are...if the information is instant and ever changing...so should the peopel sending and receiving that information. I'm bored, I will move on to the next friend that holds my interest.
I could be all wet here too...I could just be a lousy friend with no follow up and as you are out of sight you are out of mind.
I don't know how it is with girls, because I think they are better at relationships, BUT for guys...It is out of sight out of mind.
I don't really like to talk on the phone or sit down for an evening of emailing my buddies. We are lousy friends.
The reason I started doing this blog thing was for any easy way to keep in contact with my good friends (Doc and Darwin, Roamer)who were leaving. This was my effor to fight the becoming strangers phase. So far I think it has worked. They can read up and leave comments and I can do the same.
Being a girl, I don't think that I am that good at keeping in touch with friends that have moved away. I am impressed with Dirt and Jadee's friendship--living miles apart.
I do like to keep up through the blog, though info from my end of the world is a little less reliably up to date. It is hard to post frequently with 28k dial-up modem!
Doc, I need to call you. Does your mobile work up there? I'll give it a shot.
Sometimes shared experiences help you to keep relationships that are long distance up. ie, both newly married, both in new places without new friends. I guess it just grows from there. If you don't have that type of thing to share--or you have other people to share it with closer--then it's easy to lose touch.
I definately think this is typically more difficult for guys then girls. I've talked to my best friend from High School more then I've spent talking to my brother since he got married! She and I haven't lived in the same city since 1992! At the same time, I can't think of one guy that dash keeps in touch with except a former boss that he has called a couple times since we moved back here 4 years ago. Those calls were spurred by "hey I'm job hunting and putting you as a reference" need to know info. I know he was glad to have caught up with him and occasionally says, I should call him, or wonder how they are doing....but I never see the follow through.
Keeping in touch is a big effort. I think most people don't actually do it. I read in a magazine lately that one way to re-connect with someone is to send a short (snail mail) note. Just say, hey it's been a long time, thought of you, here's my email or phone. It sort of opens the door without having to tell your whole life story. If they're uncomfortable, there's no pressure.
my phone works when I leave it on. It is off a lot though because I work a lot of evenings. Not all evenings... Actually getting me by phone is somewhat like the odds of winning the lottery.
Is this the guy we see at some of the concerts?
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